You want to make your friend feel better, but you have to understand, nothing you say or do is going to do that. The best you can do is avoid making them feel worse. They likely won’t even remember what you say to them later, but it’s important that you say something so they know you are there and that you support them.

When someone you know has suffered the loss of a loved one, one of the ways you can show your support is to attend the cremation services in Chicago, IL. You want to make your friend feel better, but you have to understand, nothing you say or do is going to do that. The best you can do is avoid making them feel worse. They likely won’t even remember what you say to them later, but it’s important that you say something so they know you are there and that you support them. What should you say? What should you avoid saying? Here are a few items to consider.

I’m Sorry For Your Loss

Sometimes, keeping it simple is the best you can do. Give your friend a tight hug, say you’re sorry for their loss, and leave it at that. It’s simple, to the point, and honest and you really can’t go wrong.

Let Me Help You With (Fill In The Blank)

It would be easy enough for you to tell them you’re there to help with anything they need, but it can be hard for them to come up with something right away and they likely won’t reach out later with another idea. IF you have a specific talent or time for something, let them know and offer that specific thing. Let me help you with mowing the grass this month. Let me help you get your groceries next week. Those are the types of specific things you might offer. And be sure to follow up on them later as they might not remember who said what.

I Loved It When Your Loved One (Fill In The Blank)

If you knew their loved one, it’s nice for you to bring up a special memory you have of that person. I loved it when your loved one baked cookies for us after school. I loved it when your loved one sent pictures to me. It’s a nice way to make them smile, even just for a moment, and remind them that they loved one was special to many people.

I’m Here When You Need To Talk

It might be hard for your friend to find a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen once the services are over, but their grief continues. Letting them know that you are there and you are willing can be a big help later. Again, you will need to reiterate this another time since they may not remember who said what and who made what offer.

These are a few easy, stand up things to say to someone who is grieving at the cremation services in Chicago, IL for their loved one. If you want to go over things you definitely shouldn’t say, or if you need help coming up with something appropriate, the professionals at Chicagoland Cremation Options are here to help. Call us at (773) 631-0018 or visit with our supportive staff at 9329 Byron St, Schiller Park, IL 60176.